Jun 12, 20203 min read

Do You Know Your Parenting Style?

Updated: Jun 13, 2020

An individual may have many friends, but family always play a major role in everyone’s life. From the child’s infant stage, parents will feel responsible about their children and wants to feel proud on their children achievements. For that, parents will raise a child with complete physical, mental, social and psychological development, collaboratively known as Parenting Style.

With the changing world, old parenting styles are unfit with present generation children because of few reasons given below.

Parents are unable to provide a complete home environment like time and care towards children.
Parents are lacking knowledge about child development stages.
Lack of communication between children and parents.
To control the consequences of child maladaptive behavior, parents are treating their children harshly which impacts on child overall development.

TYPES OF PARENTING STYLES AND ITS INFLUENCE ON CHILD DEVELOPMENT

Depending upon the parenting style, child and parent relationship influences the child development both positively and negatively. Most of the parents limited themselves to concentrate on their child's growth up to primary classes, but actual development happens in adolescence where they actually need parents support. Adolescents always faces conflicts between the family morals and social morals. Since they don’t develop personal morals at that stage. Lack of parental support makes the top-ranked primary student to fail in their high school classes.

Here, I have discussed about four Parenting styles and its impact on child's psychological and personality development.

AUTHORITATIVE PARENTING STYLES

In this, the parent plays different roles like teacher, friend, guide and motivator to that child. This makes a strong bond between them and the child feels so happy, secured, strong excel in academics and becomes successful.

Psychological effects: Few children become indecisive and depend on their parents, friends, and family for decision making. It could lead to a Dependent Personality Disorder.

AUTHORITARIAN PARENTING STYLES

Almost a decade back, this parenting style was dominant. Here, parents are dictators who pass rules irrespective of children opinions and feelings. Parent’s wishes, dreams and demands will be the child’s aim and future. Parents will give harsh punishments to children without explaining what they had done wrong. Their strategy for a child’s mistake is punishment only. This makes the child very aggressive and confused about good and bad differences.

Psychological Effects: Child will adapt rule-breaking behavior, run away from home, lacks empathy, become as abusers, involves in violent activities and sometimes ends their life as criminals. Forget about academic achievement, they even don’t think about schooling and always bunk classes. It could lead to Anger management problems, Phobia, Anxiety or Depression or Bipolar disorder. In severe cases, Paranoid and Antisocial Personality disorders may develop in the adult stage.

PERMISSIVE PARENTING STYLES

This is a trending parenting style, nowadays. Here, parents and children both spend a lot of time with each other. In this style, only one rule exists i.e., “no rules and no punishments”. Parent-child relation is full of fun, friendly and jovial.

Psychological Effects: In the future, both parents and children have to face consequences for child’s behavior. Because, child can’t discriminate between good and bad things which have to be taught by parents. Children will become stubborn, reckless, arrogant, over-sensitive and disinterested in academics. It could lead to Narcissistic personality disorder and in severe cases, Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) may develop.

UNINVOLVED PARENTING STYLES

In this type, parent-child relation is almost negligible and they behave like neighbors. This happens because of an unwanted child of workaholic parents. They won’t share their feelings and opinions with each other. Sometimes, they even don’t know the basic details like parent’s occupation and child’s mark score.

Psychological Effects: This type of child will have no self-confidence, feels lonely, low academic achievement, maintains peer relations and may have a chance to involve in illegal activities, unintentionally. These children may face Anxiety or Depression or Bipolar disorder. But in the adult stage, they develop Avoidant and Self-defeating Personality disorders.

Depending upon the parenting style and child’s sensitivity, the child may show few or all symptoms of a particular psychological problem. Depending upon the culture and environment, parents have to choose a particular parenting style for their child. In my opinion, the Authoritative Parenting Style is best and preferable for most of the children.